Humility Over Confidence

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At our recent cage fight event, Caged Chaos 6, several of the fighters that represent the school where I teach lost their fights. One in particular stands out in my mind.

He’s a big guy. You know the type, a bit muscle bound. For some time prior to the fight he was posting on Facebook how he was ready and he was going to beat the other guy, and posting pictures he had taken of himself in the mirror flexing his muscles, and all the tripe you expect. While he was spending his time boasting, he was not spending a lot of time training. In the end, early in the second round he lost in a rather humiliating way. This was his second turn in the cage, and his second loss. Both were equally poor showings.

His problem is confidence. He has tons of it. So much of it that he does not focus on what he needs, training. It makes me think of various studies I have seen about the children of this country. We are falling behind most nations in math scores, in geography scores, in language scores, and a host of education training levels. However, studies have shown that American kids do excel in one thing, confidence.

Somehow we have created environments that cause youngsters to believe they can do anything they want, while at the same time they do not do the things they need to do to accomplish those desires. It makes me think of YouTube videos, where the kid builds a ramp and intends to jump his bike over a car os something, only to fall far short of his mark in some embarrassing face plant. Did he do the math? Did he try some test runs, building up to this great attempt, or did he simply think he could do it, built the ramp and pedaled into YouTube Fail history?

Women often say that one of the things that attract them to men is confidence. I can understand being attracted to a person whose head is held high. But when confidence is not backed up with experience, when it is not supported by accomplishment or skill, what good is it? Will the lady swoon for the guy, only to find that he slobbers his way into bedroom failure or financial support failure or consideration failure?

I value humility over confidence. The person who is humble about their abilities, but is willing to try means more to me than the person who is confident of their triumph, with no evidence to support it. Confidence leads to brashness. It leads to cockiness, and often leads to egg on the face as well. Confidence often gives the individual a feeling that they do not need to try, they do not need to apply themselves, they do not need the teaching of others simply because they believe they can. The Little Train That Could did need that belief, but he also needed the willingness to try and try hard, and to listen to others. Give me humility any day.

Sifu Keith Mosher

About Sifu Keith Mosher

My new book, “Astro Boy, Sensei, and Me” is available now, as is my Sci-Fi joy ride, “On a Sphere’s Edge”. I have a Bachelor of Media Arts degree from USC. I have been an Audio Producer / Engineer, a Law Office Manager, and I am currently an Author and a Martial Arts Instructor.

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