Have you ever been in a situation where you are constantly told that things could be better and never handed an attaboy? If so, what are you suppose to assume? If things are never good enough, at least for the moment, don’t you begin to feel like it is impossible for you to do anything right?
Many folk have different avenues for praise and slap. Perhaps work is the bastion of knocks, while your significant other heaps you with kudos. Or maybe it is the other way around with the significant other being the one that never seems happy with your choices while your boss is more often pleased with you than not.
Some folk do not have those two separate worlds. Either they do not have a daily seen significant other, or they work with them, or they are retired, or for whatever reasons there are no alternate arenas in their lives. If that is the case, and the zone in which they live is filled with more negatives than positives, how can that individual live a happy life? They may be a perfectly fine human being, hurting no one, paying their bills on time, and generally an asset to society, but that does not mean that they receive the praises that are necessary to feel good about themselves.
Are you a boss or manager? Do you have people that work for you or perform tasks at your request? Are you generally more upset with the results than willing to hand out a simple pat on the back? We often forget that we catch more flies with honey than with vinegar. Certainly every single thing in life can be improved. But if you focus only on the potential for improvement, and never on the existing accomplishments, what message are you sending?