It is legitimate to proffer new facts, even opinions, when trying to persuade someone on an issue. However, it accomplishes little to suggest to an individual that they should be different from the way they are.
Some people may stand their ground. They do not worry, or say that they don’t, convinced in their convictions. Other people may take a more sheepish approach, internalizing, analyzing, and musing over the alternatives ahead of them. It is appropriate to offer facts and thoughts on the options that face them, but to suggest that they confront the situation differently is inherently inconsiderate.
What we believe does not define us. How we believe, how we act, is the hallmark of whom we are. While the strong-willed may charge ahead, marking themselves as warriors, some feel the meek will inherit the Earth. You may or may not agree with a person. What you remember is how they acted upon their beliefs. You remember that they were fearless and strong, or that they were accepting and willing to consider alternatives. You remember that they charged ahead, or if they took a step back and internalized.
You may prefer one approach to another, but to suggest that the meek become more like the strong, or the strong become more like the meek, is to suggest that the person stop being who they are. “To thine own self be true,” Shakespear told us, and wisely so. Beliefs will change, options will change, and people will grow. But the soul of the individual is theirs. To suggest that they change is the same as saying, “Be someone else.”
I yam what I yam.